Gochujang Butter Pasta (recipe from Eric Kim at @NYTCooking )


Have you ever been grateful for failing at something? Honestly, I can’t say I have. I’m one of those persons who likes to succeed at everything I do, even if it’s something I don’t like. But here’s the real question:

Does this bring me confidence?

Once again, in all honesty, the answer is no.

As I said a couple weeks ago, one of the things I’ve learned from my coach, Dan Walters (EP 42) is that I have to set aside my ego before confidence has a real chance to grow. And that’s really what my obsession with “success” is—an attempt to inflate my ego, at the cost of real confidence and joy.

One of the things I loved about what Eric says here is that he wasn’t afraid to fail, or that even if he was at the time, he has the confidence to look back and say that failure was a good thing, even a welcome thing. Because what he’d continued to succeed at something he didn’t like? At something he wasn’t meant for? Well, I can tell ya this: we wouldn’t have this plate of delicious Gochujang Butter Noodles. 🙂

You can find the full recipe on the NYT’s cooking page, but you cook some spaghetti (or ramen noodles) and make the sauce by mixing butter, a TON of garlic, gochujang, brown rice syrup (my sub for honey), and sherry/rice vinegar with a healthy splash of pasta water. Garnish with scallions/cilantro (I subbed in parsley).

Joanne Lee Molinaro is a Korean American trial lawyer, New York Times best-selling author, James Beard Award-winner, and host of the Are You Ready podcast. With nearly 5 million fans spread across her social media platforms, Joanne has appeared on The Food Network, CBS Saturday Morning, ABC’s Live with Kelly and Ryan, The Today Show, PBS, and The Rich Roll Podcast. She’s been featured in the Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, The Atlantic, NPR, and CNN; and her debut cookbook was selected as one of “The Best Cookbooks of 2021” by The New York Times and The New Yorker among others.

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  1. Thank you so much for this video, i'm literally crying right now it's stupid bruh I'm currently in studies that make me sad like i don't want to be here, i don't want to keep going but i know that i would feel so bad to stop. It's just been half a month that I opened up to my best friends and they said that I should stop and change at the end of the year but, even if I'm decided right now, I know that my stupid ass can change her opinion at the last minute because hey why not ? I did one year I can do the other one no? Ergh fuck

  2. Rn I'm in this exact place in my life. The courage that it takes to let go and give up something u r stuck with is really underrated. The fear of being 'called' a failure when it's actually not a failure it's just the natural process of trial n error is holding me back from alot of experiences. I'm just 19 but the fact that I'm scared of failure when I'm suppose to find myself through such trials n errors